This post is all about signs he is not the one.
Let’s be honest – dating can be challenging and exhausting, to say the least.
But here’s the thing, if you’re looking for true love, for your soulmate, for the one you want to live happily ever after with – it’s important to pay attention to the signs he is not the one and keep dating until you find the one.
Signs He Is Not The One
How can you tell that the one you are with is not the one? The longer you are with someone, the harder this can be…
You can get comfy with Mr. Wrong without even realizing it.
And before you know it, you’ve spent weeks, months, or even years lying to yourself about what just really wasn’t meant to be.
When it comes to “the one”, it can be challenging to differentiate between being with your true love, your soul mate, or just being with someone you love and care about.
That’s why we are sharing these 13 signs that you can look for to see if the person you are with is Mr. Forever or Mr. Right Now.
Can You Love Someone And Them Not Be The One?
Yes, and this is what can make leaving a relationship even harder.
It is possible to love someone and for that person to not be the one.
When you are considering spending forever with someone it’s important to make sure that you are with the one.
Forever is a long time and when you are with the one, you will know.
Accepting That He Is Not The One
Coming to terms with the fact that the person you are with is not the one can be incredibly challenging.
Especially if you have been with this person for a long time. The longer a relationship goes on, the more you have invested in it which means the harder it can be to leave.
That being said – having the courage to leave a relationship because you know in your heart it is not right for you is one of the best things that you can do for yourself.
If you are unhappy in your relationship and have dreams of living happily ever after – the harsh truth is that either major shifts need to occur in your current relationship, or you will need to move on to experience your happily ever after.
13 Signs He Is Not The One
Some of these signs might be super obvious whereas others you may have to stop and think about for a bit.
Leaving a relationship can be scary and challenging especially if you love him. But if you don’t dare to let go of what isn’t serving you – you will never allow yourself to truly find your true love.
#1 – He makes you sad or frustrated more days than he makes you feel happy.
If you notice that you are constantly feeling frustrated, sad, or angry in your relationship more often than you are feeling happy – there’s a good chance that he is not the one.
In every relationship, there will be disagreements and there will be times when you’re not necessarily seeing eye to eye.
However, the majority of the time you should feel happy in the relationship that you’re in.
If you are wondering if you are happy more often than not, it can help to keep track of this on your calendar. Mark the days that you are happy.
Do it for a month and look back at it. Let the checkmarks on the days you feel happy help you to make the decision.
How Do You Know Your Partner Is Not The One?
#2 – You don’t want the same things.
When it comes to not wanting the same things, we’re referring to the big things here – like in regards to family, lifestyle, travel, etc.
Not wanting the same thing for dinner is no big deal, but whether or not you want to have kids in your future is an entirely different discussion.
Ask yourself – do you and your partner want the same things?
#3 – They put you down.
If your partner puts you down this is a big sign that he is not the one.
The one will build you up and help you to feel good about yourself. Not find fault and criticize you for being you.
There’s a difference between him offering his opinion – like not loving a pair of shoes you’re wearing vs. putting down who you are as a person.
#4 – He isn’t supportive.
If the person you are with is not supportive, you may want to think again.
The one will be supportive and encouraging of you and your dreams.
They will have your back and be your biggest cheerleader.
How Do You Know He Is Not The One?
#5 – You don’t feel like yourself.
In a relationship with the one, you will feel like you are your authentic self.
You will even become more of your authentic self over time because this person brings out the best in you!
If you notice that you are not feeling like yourself in your relationship or that you are abandoning parts of yourself, there’s a good chance that he is not the one.
#6 – You don’t feel like you can trust him.
Trust is critical to a long-lasting healthy relationship. In a relationship, you should be able to trust the person that you are with.
If you notice that you aren’t feeling like you can trust your partner, it is a good idea to ask yourself why.
Are you experiencing some sort of jealousy issue, or is your partner actually doing something untrustworthy?
When He Is Not The One
#7 – He doesn’t listen to you.
For a relationship to work both people have to be able to listen to one another.
If your partner says that they are listening but you can tell that they really aren’t, this is a sign he is not the one.
Think of it like this, when he’s talking to you, do you listen to him?
Is he listening and respecting you while you’re talking in the same way that you listen and respect him while he’s talking?
#8 – There is always something that you are trying to fix in the relationship.
Do you notice that there is always something wrong that needs fixing in your relationship?
Now, we’re not saying that there should be nothing to work on improving because there is always room to improve any relationship.
However, do you notice that you are constantly trying to make everything better – or that there is always something wrong in your relationship?
If you’ve turned into Miss Fix-It constantly this may be a sign that he is not the one.
#9 – You can’t count on him.
Can you count on your partner?
The one will be there for you.
It will never even be a question in your mind whether or not you can count on him because he will always be there for you.
Are You With Mr. Right Or Mr. Right Now?
#10 – Your relationship isn’t fun.
There is a difference between being bored and just not enjoying the person that you are with.
The longer you are in a relationship it does take work to keep things fun and exciting.
That does not mean that you no longer have fun with your partner though.
Ask yourself, is your relationship fun? If not, try to determine why.
Do you need to spice things up with some new date night ideas, or is it not fun because you’re just not enjoying being with your partner?
#11 – He always puts his needs first.
Relationships should be a give and take, creating balance.
There will be times where your needs are at the top and there will be times where his needs are at the top.
But if you notice that his needs are coming before your needs all of the time, this is a sign that he is not the one.
#12 – You dread date night.
If you notice yourself dreading the time that you two spend together this is a red flag.
When you are with “the one” you will be looking forward to spending time with them. They are your person, they are the one that you look forward to hanging out with.
If you’re dreading the time you have to spend with your significant other, this is a sign he is not the one.
When You Know He Is Not The One
#13 – You don’t feel it.
This above all else is the most important sign.
Trust your intuition. Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason for why we feel that something just isn’t working.
Like we just can’t put into words why we feel it isn’t right.
Friends and family may not even understand and all the signs may be pointing to “he is the one” but in your heart, you know “he is not the one”.
Trust your heart, trust your intuition.
Signs He Is The One
There are a few tell-tale signs that the guy you are with is in fact Mr. Right and not just Mr. Right Now.
We have an entire post here where you can read about all the signs and even take the quiz to see if the one you are with is the one.
This post was all about signs he is not the one.
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