It’s normal to feel a little bit nervous about giving a maid of honor speech. But not to worry, you’re definitely not alone! We’ve been there too.
Being chosen as the maid of honor is truly an honor;)! However, with this title also can come a lot of pressure, especially with delivering a memorable speech. But not to worry. With a bit of preparation, and a few helpful tips, you’ll be able to deliver a speech that will have everyone laughing, crying, and feeling all the love.
In this post, we share the best tips and tricks on how to write a maid of honor speech for your sister, cousin, or your best friend.
Maid Of Honor Speech
As I’m sure you’re aware, the maid of honor title has many duties that come along with it. Everything from planning the bridal shower, the bachelorette party, all the wedding festivities, and up to that incredibly important moment when you deliver your maid of honor speech.
However, before you can deliver this speech, you first must write it. Writing a maid of honor speech can seem like a daunting task, but have no fear – with these tips and tricks, you’ll be able to write a heartfelt and memorable maid of honor speech the couple will cherish.
How To Write A Maid Of Honor Speech
As you sit down to write your maid of honor speech, there are several different ways you can go about it. To help get your creative juices flowing – we’ve put together these initial questions:
- What kind of maid of honor speech do you want to deliver? Do you want to be funny, heartfelt, etc.?
- What do you want the bride and groom to remember about your speech?
- What do you want the audience to remember about your speech?
- How did you first meet the bride/groom? What were your first impressions?
- What are some of your favorite memories with the bride/groom? What makes them special to you?
- What are the qualities you admire most about the bride/groom? How do they complement each other well?
- How did the bride and groom meet?
- What advice would you offer to the couple?
- What are some of the hopes and dreams you have for the newlyweds?
Maid Of Honor Speech Outline
Creating an outline for your maid of honor speech is a good way to organize your thoughts. I recommend doing a brain dump of ideas into each section of the outline below. Then narrow down your favorites from each section of the outline.
Your maid of honor speech outline should include:
- Personal memories and/or stories
- The couple’s love story
- Words of encouragement
- Words of advice
- Closing and raising a toast
Tip: Start writing your maid of honor speech well in advance. Don’t put this off until the last minute. The more time you have to gather your ideas and practice, the better your speech will be.
1. How To Start A Maid Of Honor Speech | The Introduction
You’ll want to start your maid of honor speech with a brief introduction. In this section of your speech, welcome everyone and thank them for being there to celebrate the happy couple. Thank the couple for inviting you to be part of their special day. You’ll also want to introduce yourself and share your relationship to the bride/groom. Be sure to express your excitement for the couple on their special day.
Examples Of How To Start A Maid Of Honor Speech Introduction:
“Hello, everyone! I’m so excited to be here today to celebrate the love and nuptials of two of my favorite people in the world.”
“Hi, everyone! I’m so honored to be here today to toast these two incredible people who have found each other and are starting a new journey together.”
“Good evening! As the maid of honor, I’m so excited to share a few words about my dear sister (Bride’s Name) and her husband (Groom’s Name).”
“Good afternoon, everyone! I’m incredibly honored to be standing here as the maid of honor for (Bride’s Name) and (Groom’s Name) on their special day.”
“Hello, everyone! I’m thrilled to be here today with all of you to celebrate the love and commitment of (Bride’s Name) and (Groom’s Name).”
2. Personal Memories and Stories To Include In A Maid Of Honor Speech
Reflect on your relationship with each person (the bride and groom). Share personal stories and memories of how you met both the bride and the groom. This is a great place to inject some humor into your speech.
Examples Of Personal Memories and Stories:
Childhood memories: Depending on how long you’ve known the bride, consider sharing a funny story from your childhood that you have with the bride. You could talk about how you two met, or share a story about a special moment you shared.
Adventures with the bride: Consider sharing a fun or adventurous story from a trip or a night out you had with the bride. Is there a road trip, weekend getaway, or study abroad experience you shared?
The first time you met the groom: Share a story about the very first time you met the groom. What were your thoughts, first impressions, or funny moments you encountered?
Personal message to the couple: Consider sharing a personal message to the bride and groom, letting them know how much they mean to you and how excited you are for their next chapter together.
The Couple’s Love Story
Including memories from the love story of the newlyweds in your maid of honor speech is a great way to highlight the journey the couple has shared up to the moment they said I do.
Examples Of How To Include The Newlywed’s Love Story:
How they met: Share the story about how the couple first met. Did they meet at school, online, at work, through friends, a chance encounter, etc.? Highlight the moment when they first realized they had feelings for each other.
The early days of their relationship: Do you have any stories you can share about a special moment in the early days of the couple’s relationship? For example, do you have details on their first date, their first kiss, or a special vacation they took together?
Interests or hobbies the couple shares: Talk about interests, hobbies, or activities the newlyweds enjoy doing together. For example, do they enjoy the outdoors, hiking, cooking, a certain podcast, going to concerts, etc.?
The proposal: Including details about the proposal is often a crowd-pleaser. Talk about the moment when the groom proposed and how the bride reacted. Were you there? If so, share your thoughts and what you noticed. What was the first thing the bride said to you after she got engaged? Share any special details about the proposal. This could be the location, the ring, or anything significant.
Words Of Encouragement To Include In A Maid Of Honor Speech
As the maid of honor, offering encouragement and support to the newlyweds as they begin their lives together is an important role that you have. Sharing those words of encouragement in your maid of honor speech is a perfect place to do this.
Examples Of Words Of Encouragement For The Bride and Groom:
“I knew from the beginning that you two are meant to be together, and there is no doubt in my mind that you’re going to create a beautiful life together.”
“Through the good and the bad, I’ve watched you both prove that your love can conquer any obstacle that may stand in your way. I know that you’ll continue to move forward with the same strength.”
“May the love you have for each other continue to grow with every passing year, and may the bond you share get stronger and stronger.”
“You two have found something truly special in each other, and I have no doubt that your future together will be filled with love, laughter, and joy.”
“Life is a journey, full of ups and downs, but I have no doubt that with your strong love and the commitment you have to one another, you’ll be able to navigate any turbulence that may come your way.”
Words Of Advice To Include In A Maid Of Honor Speech
Sharing words of advice from your own experience and/or observations is a lovely touch. Be sure the advice you offer is personalized for the bride and groom.
Examples Of Words Of Advice For The Bride and Groom:
“Be each other’s biggest cheerleaders and remember that you’re on the same team.”
“Life gets busy, so always remember to make time for each other. Prioritize your relationship and keep the romance alive.”
“Remember marriage is a partnership. Always support and encourage each other in your individual goals and dreams.”
“Never stop learning about each other. Make time to discover new things about each other and partake in new experiences together.”
“Love is a choice. Choose to love each other every day, even when times are tough. With love, commitment, and respect for each other, you can overcome any challenge that may come your way.”
How To End Your Maid Of Honor Speech
End your maid of honor speech with a closing statement and raise a toast to the bride and groom. Be sure to end your speech on a happy and uplifting note by expressing love and support for the couple.
Examples Of How To End Your Maid Of Honor Speech:
“To the newlyweds, I want to remind you that marriage is a journey, not a destination. I wish you both a lifetime of love, laughter, and adventure.”
“As we celebrate the incredible love between the bride and groom today, please join me in raising your glass to the lifelong partnership and friendship they will share together.”
“To the bride and groom, always remember the love that brought you together today. Let that love guide you through all of life’s adventures. Cheers and best wishes!
“To my sister and her new husband, I am honored to have been a part of your special day. May your love for each other continue to grow and flourish for many years to come.”
“To my best friend and her new husband, I wish you a lifetime of love, laughter, and joy. Cheers to the bride and groom!
Frequently Asked Questions About The Maid Of Honor Speech
How Long Should A Maid Of Honor Speech Be?
There is a fine balance between sharing meaningful stories and being concise. You don’t want to be that maid of honor babbling on forever as everyone’s eyes glaze over and stop listening to what you have to say. So, as a good rule of thumb, a maid of honor speech should be between two and five minutes. This will give you enough time to share personal memories, a couple things about the newlywed’s love story, offer encouragement and advice, and close by raising a toast. The exact length of your speech will depend a lot on the preferences of the bride and groom (yes they may have a say in this) as well as your personal style.
What Should You Avoid In A Maid Of Honor Speech?
As you create your maid of honor speech, be sure to avoid the following:
- Jokes or stories that might embarrass the couple or make them uncomfortable.
- Negativity about marriage as a whole.
- Bad habits of either the bride or groom.
- Adult humor.
- Previous relationships of either the bride or groom.
- Private jokes that no one but you and/or the bride and groom will understand.
**Remember that the focus of your maid of honor speech is to honor and celebrate the couple in an uplifting and loving way.
Final Thoughts On How To Write A Maid Of Honor Speech
Delivering your maid of honor speech can arguably be the most important duty that you have as the maid of honor. This is your time to show your support and share with the bride just how much her future happiness in this next chapter of life means to you.
There is no exact formula to follow for how to write a maid of honor speech, but we hope that this outline helps! The most important thing to keep in mind when giving a maid of honor speech is to speak from the heart, be genuine, and keep the focus of what you say on the wedding celebration, love, and joy of the newlyweds.
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